Blogtober Day 1: My top 5 Struggles

I decided to participate in Blogtober this year to put myself out there so you can get to know me better. I thought I’d start by opening up about my top 5 struggles with life.

Parenting

This is a subject I’ve breached on this blog a few times, but not as much as I’d like. As a single parent its a subject that’s very personal for me, and it’s one of my biggest struggles. I know I’m not the only parent that feels this way. I’m always working hard to make sure my son is happy, healthy, and learning. But sometimes it feels like I’m doing enough. Am I at work too often? Is working on my blog taking away too much of our time together? At other times it seems like I’m doing too much. Does he have too many toys? Is he spoiled?

The fact is, that parenting is tough, and being a single parent is even tougher. Despite the fact that I have a ton of support, I’m still constantly stressed and second-guessing myself. That’s why parenting is the first of my top 5 struggles.

If you’re interested in more detailed information on life as a single parent, check out my post: Single Parenting: Expectations vs Reality.

Work-Life Balance

I work a weird schedule at my day job. 10 days on, 4 days off. And while this is great on the weeks that I have a long weekend, the 10 days on are rough. I feel like I don’t spend enough time with my family, and my blog suffers for long stretches because sometimes I’m just to exhausted to work on it once I get home.

I just keep telling myself that this is why I started my blog, to gain some more financial freedom and eventually have to work less. It’s difficult right now, especially since I haven’t profited much yet, to keep the end goal in sight.

If you’re interested in spending less time at work, try reading The 4-hour workweek. I just finished it, and while it has clearly not solved all my problems, it’s really helped me get my priorities in line and find more time for myself.

Friends

I’m bad at making friends, and I’m bad at keeping in touch with the ones I do have. The truth is, I don’t like most people, so I tend to avoid the types of places that are conducive to making friends. This bothers me much less than how much I neglect the friends that I do have. I think it was about 3 months ago the last time I went out with one of my friends.

It’s not that I don’t want to see them, I love the friends that I do have. However, I’m busy all the time and my social anxiety is at an all-time high. Between work, parenting, and running this blog, I barely have time to breathe. So if you’re one of those friends that I’ve been neglecting, just know that I’m rooting for you and I miss you.

Self Esteem

I get asked fairly regularly where I get my confidence. I like to give people motivating answers like ‘if you believe in what you’re doing, it’s easy to be confident’ or ‘just have faith in yourself’. These answers are great, and they are helpful. But in all honesty, my answer every time should be ‘fake it till you make it’.

I constantly second guess myself. At any given moment, you can find me having a minor (or sometimes major) panic attack about almost every decision I’ve made. I fight through it, and things usually work out. But it’s a constant battle I fight with myself.

Body Image

I was never super thin, and at various times in my life, it bothered me. But for a long time I got comfortable in my own skin, I was healthy even if I wasn’t a size 2. Then I had a child, and it all went downhill. I had my son by c-section, and I was sure I’d lose the baby weight. Instead, I have a weird c-section pooch, stretch marks, and my metabolism is shot. I’ll be honest, I didn’t lose any of the baby weight, I’m heavier now than I was when I was pregnant. It kills me. I try to diet and exercise, but I am terrible at keeping up with it, and I never seem to get good results.

What do you struggle with?

Those are my top 5 struggles. I’m working hard on all of them, but I don’t have it all figured out. Let me know in the comments what you struggle with most, I’d love to get to know more about you too.

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22 thoughts on “Blogtober Day 1: My top 5 Struggles

  1. I am struggling if I should go back to the US or stay in Japan. It is hard to find a non-teaching job in Japan but I like it so much here.

  2. Very refreshing read for me. I struggle with literally all of these too. Thank you

  3. Parenting is my # 1 struggle, ha! But My son is adorable so that helps! I just never thought I would ever be a parent, so it’s all just a HUGE slap in the face!

  4. I know that body image struggle for SURE! It’s such a hard thing but we’re all beautiful!

  5. Deep self reflection. Everyone has struggles. As parent we will always want to do more. But sometimes we have to just accept some things as they are. My struggle is time. There’s only so much I can do within 24 hour 😣

  6. I think my biggest struggle is trying to be everything to everyone. It’s so hard for me to not do that!

  7. Thanks for sharing! I’m struggling with having a well balanced diet since I have a lot of food restrictions 🙁

  8. I love how honest you were in this post. I definitely struggle with maintaining a work-life balance as well. I am finishing up my last semester of college and working 2 jobs while also trying my luck at this whole freelance thing. Body image is one of my insecurities as well, but I’m slowly getting better at accepting myself for who I am.

  9. Interesting article. I struggle with lots of these too

  10. Work life balance and parenting is not an easy task. But with good plans, it can be made fun.

  11. Work life balance, parenting, self-care. Those are my big struggles at the moment but I am trying to find ways to overcome my struggle! Thank you for sharing this post. Very helpful!

  12. I also struggle with the most things on your list. I find it very hard to make friendships that last because I move all the time. Also, my self esteem is not great at all.

  13. Are we the same person? This list was spot on for me. As my kids have gotten older and I’ve got to know more moms, I’ve found that most of us have the same issues and worries. We just tend to put on a happy face and keep going. It helps to talk to other moms and realize that I’m not alone.

  14. Establishing a work/life balance has always been a struggle for me as I am the kind of person who likes to throw myself 110% into everything I do. I’ve been getting much better about that, schedule time away with my husband and my ‘pack’ occasionally just to help myself unplug and step away for some much needed downtime.

  15. You’re a strong woman, Kimmy. For an introvert, I like that you’re able to share a part of yourself… many parts actually. I know opening up isn’t really an introvert thing. I like that you remain positive despite all these and you continue to strive hard for you and your child. I can totally relate with “fake it till you make it” hahaha! To be honest, it works! 😀 I wish you allll the best and I can’t wait to read the rest of your blogtober entries. <3

    As for my struggle.. I'm still in the process of balancing work and life. Oh, my constant use of profanities. LMAO! I'm working on it!

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  17. I have the same issue about Work-Life Balance. Well, not how I work but how to make which tasks the most important. I have to think about it more and read the Four Day Work Week!

  18. Balancing everything right is so hard sometimes especially when you have less time than work.
    For me Work-Life-balance is the hardest to get it right.

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  20. I find work life balance to be something I also struggle with

  21. I guess work-life balance is the universal struggle. I hope we will find time to manage both.

  22. Currently, I am little struggling on when to finally leave my post at work coz it’s really exhausting. After this, I will be pursuing my dream to be working at home with my writing.

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